Tuesday, January 29, 2013

Why is giving people the right to love whomever they love such a huge issue?  I really don’t understand this.  It baffles me how government, organizations, and society tries to control how people feel yet still insist that we live in a free country.  It is discrimination, which is illegal.  Let's call a spade a spade.

What set me off today was while I was skimming the news, I discovered that the Boys Scouts of America are just now deciding to allow the individual Areas and Groups to determine if they would like to include non-heterosexual people to be part of Scouting.  Before this, youth would be excluded if they were not heterosexual.

Really?

These are kids!!!!

With everything that children need to deal with in society including, but not limited to, peer pressure, bullying, media impressions, and more…why in the world do we need to give them more fuel for hate?  Hasn’t any of the incidents we’ve seen in the past few years with violence erupting in our schools and people getting killed shown us that there is more than enough hate in this world?  Let the children love.  It doesn’t matter if they love girls or boys or both.

Perhaps the Boys Scouts of America need to take a look at their neighbors to the North.  Not only does Scouts Canada allow people to love whomever they want, it is part of the Bylaws, Policies, and Procedures (section 1003) that no one is to be excluded due to their sexual orientation.  It even goes so far as to advise adult volunteers how to handle situations where a youth may “come out” to them.  How to reassure youth that it’s ok to have those feelings and still be a scout.

I am so proud to be a part of Scouts Canada.

Take Care, D

Friday, January 18, 2013

Since winter break, R has been asking me to walk him to the door at school rather than just dropping him off at the playground.  Often, he is in tears when it is time to say good-bye.  He tells me that he’s crying because he’ll miss me.  At soccer, he often feigns illness so he doesn’t have to go or when we get there, he again is tearful and tells his coach that he doesn’t feel well and we end up going home early.  R LOVES soccer and begged to be in it – so why does he not want to go?  Again, when asked, he says he misses us.  I don’t understand this because we are right there, watching from the grandstands.

He was fine before break but this is not unusual.  The same thing happens year after year when we have a break.  I thought this year would be different.  He seemed happy before break and was even seeking out his independence in telling me he was responsible enough to walk home by himself and that he could go to the park by himself.  I had not walked him to his door at school since the first day.

Hubby thinks we need to back off on the cuddling and treat him like a big kid, and that sounds right – I mean, kids live up to your expectations, right?  But something in me says that he needs more love and assurance right now and gestures showing our love might be what he needs.  Truly, I’m at a loss.  Internet research, here I come.

I'd love to hear from another parent, has anyone else experienced this with their elementary school-aged child?  How did you handle it?  What would you do differently, if anything?

Take Care, D

Monday, January 14, 2013

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Over the holidays we watched one of our favorite movies “The Grinch Who Stole Christmas”.  I’ve always enjoyed the movie for various reasons including the lesson that Christmas isn’t about material gifts.  This year, for some reason, I couldn’t get over that. 

Every year we question ourselves:  Are the presents big enough?  Is there enough food?  Is there enough this, or enough that, big enough, unique enough, tame enough, entertaining enough… are we enough?

This year, as Christmas approached, I really thought about Cindy Lou Who.  She was the little girl who had trouble finding her Christmas Spirit, just like I did.  The thought running through my head this year was, what am I teaching my children?  Is this the legacy of Christmas that I want to pass on to my children?  The answer is not just no, but HELL NO!

We did cut back a little this year but not nearly enough.  This was cemented in me by the extremely thoughtful gifts my mother gave to me and my children.  This year my parents are struggling financially so they didn’t have the extra funds to buy extravagant gifts but my mother loves to craft.  I found this year’s gifts to be perfect for us.  She not only took the time to make them herself but she also thought long and hard about what to make us.  The gifts weren’t useless junk but things we wanted, needed, or enjoyed.  The best part – the kids LOVED them.

Next year I hope to cut back even more and find a charity that my children can not only give to, but be a part of.  Hubby took all of winter break off so we could do family activities and it was then that we really got into the spirit of Christmas.  So the lesson I learned is that Christmas is better when we focus on our family and not whether we’re enough.  Thanks Cindy Lou.

How do you get into the Christmas Spirit?

Take Care, D

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