Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Boys and Dating Around the Corner…Yikes!

We are embarking on a new stage in the teen years…boys.  C has been interested in boys for a little while and I suspect that, although I have only recently been hearing about it, she and her friends have been discussing boys for much longer.  C is a fairly reasonable young woman though and has not made any steps toward dating...at this time.  I do suspect it won't be long, maybe a year, until we hear of her having a boyfriend.  What boyfriend entails to her, could be a number of different things in the relationship spectrum.  She is only 13.  That hurdle we'll jump when we get to it.

We joke about her not dating until she’s 30 and that we pity the first boy she introduces to her father as her “boyfriend”.  In fact, Hubby and his friends who have daughters have a pact to gather at the respective father’s house to greet and interrogate the young man (perhaps while cleaning their guns or sharpening their hunting knives).  In actuality, we have not placed any limitations on what age is or isn’t appropriate for dating.  We have focused on appropriate behaviour for a young woman along with facts and warnings about sex, conduct that may mislead boys, and peer pressure.  We hope this guidance along with rules around knowing where she is at all times, who she’s with, and meeting all friends of either gender will help us keep her safe and that she will make the right choices. 

It’s scary as hell!

This is my first post about concerns for boy troubles and outlooks but I’m sure it won’t be my last.  Here’s  a post from a friend on Facebook which made me smile while giving a bit of advice:
To all the girls who are in a hurry to have a boyfriend or get married, a piece of Biblical advice: " Ruth patiently waited for her mate Boaz." While you are waiting on YOUR Boaz, don't settle for any of his relatives; Broke-az, Po-az, Lyin-az, Cheating-az, Dumb-az, Drunk-az, Cheap-az, Lockedup-az, , Goodfornothing-az, Lazy-az, and especially his third cousin Beatinyo-az. Wait on your Boaz and make sure he respects Yo-az.

Take Care,
D

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4 comments:

Life,Twins,DramaQueen
September 20, 2011 at 7:48 AM

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Mom4Real
September 20, 2011 at 9:32 AM

I have a 13 year old son, and I feel your pain. That quote is hilarious, and I am totally stealing it! Hopping back by!

Jessica
http://mom4realky.blogspot.com

Jennifer
September 21, 2011 at 9:00 PM

My kids are still very, very young, but I already dread the dating phase of their lives. Your advice is great though!

Mommy Bags
September 26, 2011 at 5:48 PM

OK I have a 20 month year old and I am scared just thinking about when she starts dating...ahhhhh as parents will we ever be ready? New follower from the hop hope you ca come by and say hello!

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